Creating Love & Joy! Blog #33
Embracing and appreciating love this week for my sweet husband David’s birthday today November 30th. Happy Birthday My Love!
He is such an amazing blessing and gift in my life and I have learned so much about love and life from him, and so much about myself through all the almost 20 years we have been together.
Looking at how we express our love in relationships and to ourselves is a powerful healing tool of love in our life. There are many books out there-how to find love, how to find a guy or a girl and the how to of relationships and on and on.
Love is both a noun and a verb! More than just a feeling, it is one of the greatest intentions we have and most sacred action we take. Love is the name and nature of the divine in us all. Love is!
Just for a moment, think back to your first boyfriend or girlfriend. Mine was my neighbor Billy, we were six years old, and he was so cute with blonde curly hair. We used to kiss by the side of the house and walk down the street holding hands. It was a big deal for me, but not so much for him. I was so heart broken when they moved away when I was eight years old. I can still remember him and his family driving away. Wow, what a lesson of love and letting go that was!
All our lives we have learned and experienced what love is; learning from our parents, friends, teachers, and seeing movies, TV, and reading books. We especially learn about love from ourselves; learning to love and forgive others and ourselves so we can love others more freely, unconditionally and completely.
Growing up, we found out what we want and don’t want, what we like and don’t like and it’s pretty clear by the time we reach adulthood. We know that loving ourselves is key to being able to love someone else. By beginning to truly appreciate and accept ourselves, it becomes clear how important our relationship with ourselves truly is.
Take a moment and think of the wonderful treasure you are inside and out. Make a list: I am ___________ and I have a lot of joy, I am wise, funny, smart and I am a great communicator and have lots of amusement and appreciation. Keep adding more positives points that pop up for you to the list. Take a moment to really validate yourself for the amazing incredible person and divine spirit you are in the world, sharing your beautiful LIGHT.
Since 1976, I have loved officiating the weddings of over eleven hundred incredible couples. A very powerful homework exercise I suggest they do is; to write 20 things they bring to the table in their personal relationship (very understanding, smart, a great listener, funny, loyal, beautiful, playful, great organizer and a fantastic kisser…).
Then make a list of 20 things you expect from your partner (To be honest, kind, trustworthy, and patient when you are grouchy in the morning and be a loving helpmate and playmate…). Then make a special night out to dinner or sit by the fire, and share your list with one another. It will give you insights on what you are creating together as a couple and what you are expecting.
It is fun to take time each year on your anniversary to update and share your new list with one another. This is helpful awareness and is very informative about your relationship, your growth as a couple and working together.
Couples will often come back to me after doing this exercise and say it was one of the most powerful and freeing experiences they have had as a couple.
If you do not have a mate in your life as yet and you would like one, begin to talk to them telepathically spirit to spirit. Just sit in meditation, nice and grounded and centered, and send out a spirit to spirit hello to the love of your life. See if you get a hello back. When you do, begin to ask questions-Where are you now? Are you ready for me?
Over the years I was engaged three different times, but never was guided to take the plunge and get married. I started communicating telepathically saying hello to my husband David about three years before we ever met. Saying hello-I would hear: I’m not ready yet, how about you? Then finally –I said yes, I am ready and he said yes, he was ready too. Within two weeks, a dear friend of mine invited me to a party; she said she had a friend she wanted me to meet. The rest as they say is history, we were married a little over a year later in June 2004.
I love and enjoy so much how David and I are learning and growing together both bringing our own individual strengths and creativity to the table and sharing them with each other and with the world.
Let’s all keep on creating and sharing our miraculous Gifts of Love, LIGHT and Joy!