Blog #61 How much can others have of what you are offering?
It is so difficult when we truly care and love someone, a family member or dear friend when they are going through a very challenging time in their life; such as a passing of a beloved pet or heartbroken over a relationship that has ended or someone close to us that is physically, mentally or emotionally hurting or ill.
Having love, compassion and listening is a good place to start. Then choosing to be nice and grounded and centered and asking for guidance for them; and holding space that they find the awareness and healing for complete health wholeness and certainty and limitless havingness that they are looking for.
We want to help or heal or change things for them; or we may feel like we want to fix it, but that really is not our job is it?
I have been in fix it mode most of my life. I saw what a great fixer my mother was; she could look at something and easily see how to shift it to make it better or easier for someone. She was an incredible example of having love and compassion and finding a way to help and support those around her without getting in there space.
I have learned in the last 45 years of doing counseling and healings/readings for others, that it is not my job to fix someone’s problem. It has taken me a long time to get here! :)
I am here to love and support them; to hold space for the person to find their own solution to what they are working on. I can make suggestions, move out energy that is in the way and share my experiences, but if we fix it for the person they may not get to learn what they were wanting to from the experience. As we all know, life is a school, and everything is a lesson and something we get to learn, the fun things and the difficult ones. It is a choice of how we look at it and choose to take action.
If we jump in and try to fix it for someone, sometimes we are getting in the way of the person’s own inner guidance to show them the way they are to go.
We came into this life as healers; we want to help and heal and take away the pain and suffering of others. But some people when they are hurting and are looking for help will just jump into our space to try and find their answers. But as my teacher Michael Tamura says and wrote; “You Are the Answer”
The thing is if it is not our problem we cannot fix it; the person gets to find the solution that is right for them.
So look at your life, is there anyone’s problems you have been trying to fix or solve for months or even for years? Just notice and be aware. If it’s not yours, you cannot fix it, or if you do it may reappear down the road for that person to really learn the lesson.
Finding that grounded centered place in our daily life is key, to a happier more neutral and aware space when it comes to helping, healing and supporting others.
Every day, check where your Havingness is; put up a scale 0% to 100%, see what number you get and then take your psychic finger and push it up to 100% and lock it there. It will then be easy to create what you would like for yourself and help in healing others.
Then check where the Havingness is for the person you are healing; put up a scale, see what number you get. Maybe 30% or 70%; it helps to understand where there Havingness is because they may only be able to have just a little of what you are offering. You can’t take it personally. Accepting where they are here and now in present time, you are giving them there space to be and to find their solutions. Then they can manifest whatever they would like to create. Holding space for them and seeing them finding the solutions they need is such a blessing for both of you.
Daily meditation is a powerful way to set the energy for ourselves. Breathe, relax and ground yourself to the center of the earth. Then release all the energy of the day and week down the grounding cord. Ground off any resistance, uncertainty, doubts, worries, fears, competition with yourself or others and really release any judgments. Releasing all the energy from family, friends, kids and work… you can feel the freedom and space you have created for yourself.
Have the intention of being nice and Neutral and in No Effort at all, it is easier to do when staying grounded. Be in a Body of Glass (which is allowing any energy that comes toward you just to pass on through like the Sun light through a window pane). Through the years, using all these incredible spiritual psychic tools has been a profound help as I have been guided to help and heal others. Giving ourselves permission to be happy and joyous; everyone then has the space to Be.
To complete the meditation always create a big beautiful gold Sun with a big magnet in it and call back all your life force energy from everywhere, your wisdom, knowledge, power, abundance, certainty, truth, awareness, love, joy, bliss, acceptance and permission for you to be YOU. Call back everything you need to fulfill your soul’s purpose and to be happy in this life and the amazing Healer that you are.
See the gold Sun getting nice and big, open it like an egg and just fill yourself up with the liquid gold through the top of your head through your crown filling up your whole body and aura, feel the power and healing in every cell of your being. Own your happiness, love and joy. Breathe!
And just BE the Incredible YOU!
Beautiful photo of wild flowers in late spring!