Blog # 133 Do you take anything or everything personally?

It has been an interesting couple of weeks, so much going on for everyone hope and stress…

My readee’s, friends and family and myself at times feel invalidated and not seen or heard and thinking it was something they did or didn’t do, or that they were doing something wrong!

Is that where you go when someone reacts out of character towards you that is not their norm? Sometimes it is very hard not to, right!?

I love the book The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz (A Toltec Wisdom Book)

First agreement-Be impeccable with your word

Second agreement-Don’t take anything personally

Third agreement-Don’t make assumptions

Fourth agreement-Always Do Your Best

The Four Agreements sound easy in a way, but is it?

Relationships are our lessons and gifts where we learn about life and being on this planet. We deal with family, friends, co-workers, bosses, and kids… and so much more; stress, energy and the ups and downs and challenges of life.

Where is our manual?

Is there one? The book “The Four Agreements” gives us a few clues.

-First agreement-Be impeccable with your word
“It sounds simple, but it is very, very powerful. The word is the power that you create and the gift that comes directly from God.”
Be gentle and kind and respectful with others and with yourself.

-Second agreement-Don’t take anything personally
How does anyone do that? Seems and feels like everything is personal when it is happening to us.

“Make a habit of not taking anything personally, you won’t need to place your trust in what others do or say. You will only need to trust yourself to make responsible choices…You can travel around the world with your heart completely open and no one can hurt you. You can say, “I love you,” without fear of being ridiculed or rejected.”

I have learned it helps to stay grounded and in a body of glass, nice and neutral and in no effort so we can clearly see and have the awareness, what is us and what is someone else’s picture about life.

It is an awesome reminder; if every time we think something is about us from being ignored, insulted or hurt by someone, that we just stop for a moment and ask ourselves;
Is this about me or is it their own pictures and what’s going on in their life?

It then becomes clear, it’s not you then you don’t have to jump on the merry go round to figure out what you need to do or not do about it. Just realize they have a lot on their mind and a lot going on and it is not something you need to fix.

Setting the energy for our day for love, joy and peace, creates awareness as we go through our day to keep the laughter going! Makes life so much more fun!

Photo of a beautiful lotus flower from the cover of the book “The Four Agreements”