Blog # 212 Are You Taking Anything or Everything Personally?

It has been an interesting couple of weeks, so much going on for everyone, hope and stress…

My readee’s, friends and family and myself at times, are feeling invalidated and not seen or heard, and thinking it was something we did or didn’t do, or that we were doing something wrong!

Is that where you go when someone reacts out of character towards you?
That is not their norm from them?
Sometimes it is very hard not to react, and to respond instead, right!?

I love the book “The Four Agreements” by Don Miguel Ruiz (A Toltec Wisdom Book)

First agreement-Be impeccable with your words

Second agreement-Don’t take anything personally

Third agreement-Don’t make assumptions

Fourth agreement-Always Do Your Best

The Four Agreements sound easy in a way, but are they?

Relationships are our lessons and gifts in this life and where we learn about ourselves and others and being on this planet. We deal with family, friends, co-workers, bosses, kids and the world and so much more. The stress, energy, and the ups and downs and challenges of life can be overwhelming if we let it.

Where is the manual to life’s lessons? Is there one?

The book “The Four Agreements” gives us a few clues.

-First agreement-Be impeccable with your words

“It sounds simple, but it is very powerful. The word is the power that you create and the gift that comes directly from God.”
Be gentle and kind and respectful with others and with yourself.
Words have power!

-Second agreement-Don’t take anything personally

How does anyone do that? It seems and feels like everything is personal, when it is happening to us.

“Make a habit of not taking anything personally, you won’t need to place your trust in what others do or say. You will only need to trust yourself to make responsible choices…You can travel around the world with your heart completely open and no one can hurt you. You can say, “I love you,” without fear of being ridiculed or rejected.”

I have learned it helps to stay grounded and in a body of glass, nice and neutral and in no effort, so we can clearly see with awareness, what is ours or someone else’s picture about life.

It is an awesome reminder; if every time we think something is about us, from being ignored, insulted, or hurt by someone, we just stop for a moment.

Ask yourself, if this about me? Or is it their own pictures, of their past experiences and what’s going on in their life?

It then becomes clear, it’s not you! So you don’t have to jump on the merry go round to figure out what you need to do or not do about it. Just realize they have a lot on their mind and going on and it is not something you need to fix or heal.

-Third agreement-Don’t make assumptions

“With clear communication, all of your relationships will change, not only with your partner, but with everyone else. You won’t need to make assumptions because everything becomes so clear. This is what I want; this is what you want. If we communicate in this way, our words become impeccable. If all humans could communicate in this way, there would be no wars, no violence, and no misunderstandings.”

“When you transform your whole dream, miracles just happen in your life. What you need comes to you easily because spirit moves freely through you. This is the mastery of love, the mastery of gratitude, and the mastery of life… and path to personal freedom.”

-Fourth agreement-Always Do Your Best

“Under any circumstance, always do your best, no more and no less. But keep in mind that your best is never going to be the same from one moment to the next. Every moment is alive and changing all the time.”

“Do not be concerned about the future; keep your attention on today, and stay in the present moment. Just live one day at a time. Today is the beginning of a new dream.”

I feel, most of us work at not making assumptions about others. We work on having as clear communication as we can, and doing the best we can every day. Doing our best, is the best we can do!

Staying grounded and centered and being in present time helps to be aware of what is unfolding around us and keeping us free of being judgmental and making assumptions about what we think may be going on.

Being who we are, as an eternal spirit, in this body temple of ours in this life; is like being a juggler keeping all the balls in the air and staying in amusement with a big smile on our face, which makes life much more fun and joyful.

Put the Four agreements on a post-it note and tape it to your computer, so you can see it every day. The power of your intention and your focus creates your life.

Setting the energy daily, for love, peace, and harmony, creates awareness as we go through our day to keep the laughter going! It makes life so much more joyful and fun!