Blog 127 Are you able to say NO?

 Let's talk about the importance of allowing yourself to say No.

That has been a tough one for me for most of my life.

Most of us would like people to be happy and we often try as children to make that happen. When I was a child, I never knew when the next shoe was going to drop so to speak; so I was always trying to make things ok with everyone and everything and hardly said no to any request.

Does it sound just a little familiar to anyone?
Find it hard to say No?

As most of us came into this life as very sensitive healers, we try to heal and take care of challenging situations, or we did as a kid. We then found out it is not our job to fix others, only to fix ourselves. We are here to help and support the journey for others, not to fix them.

Saying No is not about shutting people out or building walls — it’s actually the opposite. It’s about honoring our own needs and having discernment and creating space for what really matters. It’s about healthy communication for each person. It is saying no to any lies, manipulation or invalidation and listening to our intuition and knowingness, to then take the next clear step to choose to say yes or no.

Saying No can be a powerful form of taking care of you. But, it can be challenging if we are used to saying yes all the time.

Of course it is easy to say no when you are clear and passionate about something important and know it is not for you to do!

Look at if you have been trying to please people most of your life.
Do you have a difficult time saying no especially to family and friends?
Do you feel taken advantage of at times?

Here are 3 simple tips to help you start to say No:

1.     Trust your intuition: If it doesn’t feel right or align with your goals,
say No!
​2.     Be kind to yourself: Saying No is okay; it’s part of being aware and taking care of YOU.
​3.     Start small: Practice with little things and build your confidence
“No thank you, I cannot do lunch” :)

Remember, compassion and compromise are important, but so is communicating your own needs and boundaries.

Finding a balance between the two allows you to build healthy relationships without fear or regret.

By saying NO when you need to, you’re saying YES to a happier, healthier joyous YOU!
By staying grounded and aware we can easily know what is ours to do!

Photo of me finally saying yes to Miracle Mikee to go for a walk; especially because he would send me the telepathic message all day long: “Let’s go for a walk Mom!” :)