Blog #42 Happy to Validate You & Me!!!

They say validation is like love, you need to love yourself to really love someone else. Have to be able to validate yourself to validate others without judgment.

It’s bringing down the criticism and judgment and bringing up the validation, appreciation and acceptance. Like a teeter totter; if your gratitude is high then you’re criticizing and judgments will be low.

Taking time to clear out our parent’s programming of judgments and perfect pictures is a biggie. My parents were amazing people, very smart, funny, organized and very detail oriented and always looked perfect. They were really good at criticizing and had a ton of perfect pictures the way they thought things should be. My mother and I both have Virgo Moons, so she supported my being super organized and detailed even more so than she did with my brother. We had an elephant in the room like many families have, but I was always trying to heal my Dad with his issues and my Mom who was trying to keep everything together for the good of the family. But they both could not have a healing from me as a child, I often felt very invalidated. But their havingness was stuck as I saw it, in their perfect picture so they could not have it from me or it seemed from anyone else.

It is easy to clear old invalidation programming out of our space.

In a short meditation, close your eyes and breathe. Create a nice new grounding cord and connect it from your first chakra, see it like you are sitting on a big hollow tree that goes all the way to the center of the earth. Ground off all the energy that is not yours and see it like dark sand; going down the grounding to the center of the earth and just neutralizing. Go ahead and ground off all the energy from the day and month and see it all release, let go of all invalidation from family, friends, bosses, children, TV, social media and even from yourself. Let go of any resistance, uncertainty, doubts, procrastination, worries and fears and all old programming. Let go of the struggle, the have to do’s and complaints and release it all. Release all the family programming that says you have to work hard and struggle and be serious about life. Release any non-forgiveness, judgments and blame in your space. Just see all that old energy flowing out and totally freeing you up.

Now ask yourself, where do I put invalidation energy when I receive or experience it? Somewhere in my body? In my legs? In my aura somewhere? Just notice where you put any invalidation until you can clear it out later. Be aware of where you store it, so you can clear it out each week.

Visualize sitting and being in the center of your head in your beautiful sacred space that is all yours. Maybe a bright room or on the beach or in a meadow or… Sit in a comfy chair in the middle of your sacred space and call in your God Self (Your Higher Self) and God counsel (Your guides & teachers & Angels) and say hello. Set your crown to the color gold and validate yourself and this beautiful space you created where you can come any time and communicate with your God Self or God counsel. Feel how it feels in your body for a moment, calm, loving and peaceful.

Now just let all the invalidation in your space light up with little purple dots; and just ground them all out of your space. Breathe. Notice the freedom and calmness in your body. Maybe you were trying to heal or help someone and they could not have what you were offering. Adults often have a hard time receiving from kids when they are trying to help. Or from a time you were trying to tell someone something and they couldn’t get or have what you were saying and you invalidated yourself. Just release it all.

Once a week clean out all the invalidation in your space and take time to validate yourself. Now put up a rose and just forgive everyone in your life who has ever invalidated you. Then forgive yourself. Just blow that rose. Breathe and really allow yourself to feel it in the body.

Create a big beautiful gold sun with a big magnet in it and call back all your life force energy, power and wisdom, call back all the incredible things you have created in your life. Validate yourself for all you have done. See the sun getting bigger; open it like an egg and just fill yourself up from top of your head to tips of your toes and out into your aura with the beautiful gold. Breathe and feel the healing in every cell of your being.

Validate yourself Every Day for all the miraculous things you are creating.
Own it for yourself!

We have a habit of being so hard on ourselves; take time to honor and validate you for all the profound work and growth you have done in this life time.

Tell yourself:

“I did a fantastic job”!

“I have incredible awareness”

“I AM AWESOME!”…

Breathe and really let it in and allow yourself to receive and have this wonderful validation, love and appreciation for YOU!

Put post it notes around your home-“I AM INCREDIBLE!!!”  “I love and accept myself just the way I am!” Be your own cheerleader!

Breathe! Notice how much happier and joyous you feel right here and now!

YOU ARE AMAZING!!! :)